Win Back Ex Info

Hi all! I hope you are having a safe and blessed day.

This question that has stumped thousands:

“How do I get my ex back?”

But before we answer that, we must  know why the split-up happened in the first place.  As we all know, breakups can happen to anyone. It can happen slowly over time or in some cases, they can occur in a blink of an eye or a snap of a finger, and most likely, it leaves one party to wonder, what the hell just happened?

Source Of The Break-Up:

When seeking to repair a broken relationship, one must understand where it went wrong. You have to ask yourself  “why did my ex leave me?”   It’s  a very crucial factor to be totally  honest with yourself  with your answer.

Did you do something wrong?  Did you take them for granted?  Did you ignore their opinions regarding your relationship?  Maybe you just unknowingly ignored them at a time when they really needed you to be there and listen to them. The bottom line is that with every relationship, everyone wants to feel loved, wanted, respected and cared for.

Furthermore, there has to be a connection or chemistry between the people involved. Therefore,  you have to know what happened.  Why did  your ex lose their connection and commitment to you?

Most people, if not everybody, can probably answer these questions, but only those who are willing to take total responsibilities for their mistakes and take the necessary action to correct them can ever truly win their ex back.

The Aftermath:

After you get dumped, it is so easy to feel sorry for yourself.  And all your friends, family, and everybody you know will  feel sad for you, and would eventually urge you to take some time to cope with the situation.  Some of them would even give you all sorts of advice and stuff.

While it is very logical and understandable to take a step back, think, and assess the situation, at some point you have to gain your composure and be in the right frame of mind in order for you to be able to fix things.

Too many people try to do the  “feel sorry for me” act,  which, quite frankly, doesn’t really work in the long run. Yeah, there’s a slight chance that your ex would take you back, but only out of pity. Nobody ever really wants to be with somebody whom they feel sorry for - somebody who is weak and emotionally unstable.

In any relationship, both parties must put in effort. It’s “give and take” and if one of you is a dead-weight and unwilling to do their “part”, then most likely the other one will eventually get sick and tired of carrying the entire load.

Be In Charge Of Your Own Destiny:

Once you get enough courage and confidence to confront your ex, it is time to prepare your strategy.  By this time, you probably know what went wrong. So now you have to make things different and make them realize that things are going to be completely different than they were before.

As it is said, actions speak louder than words, but begging and stalking will never really help you win them back.  Not to mention, stalking may just help you in spending a few nights in  a cell with “Bubba” or “Lola”. This is something I’d imagine is NOT in your plans.

So instead, you have to do something creative;  something that will grab their attention, and make a lasting impression. ‘Cause believe me, opportunities are rare, and not everybody gets a second chance.

Hell, sometimes it’s hard enough to the first chance!

So if and when you do, you really have to make the most out of it.
So then, we come back to the question, “How do I get my ex back?”

The thing is, some people just mope around and do nothing to improve their situation while there are others who are persistent enough to find the answer.

But, Here’s the good news….

Every relationship can be saved with the right combination of persistence, creativity, and knowing what to do. With that being said, I’ll share with you today, 1  surefire technique to get your ex back and 6 more techniques over the coming days.

SUREFIRE TECHNIQUE #1: Minimize Contact

One probable cause of the break-up is that one of you most likely has had enough. So, begging and clinging would undoubtedly just annoy them. This is extremely important because if you pester your ex too much, you will make them want to avoid you even more. As people say, “let the dust settle”.

Spending time away from each other can actually help mend the broken connection. Agreeing to have some time for reflection and thought is the best way to assess your relationship. This also gives your ex some time to clear their mind.

It could be that some time away will remind them of how important your bond was. Closing the doors of communication may look as if you are doing the opposite to rejuvenating a failed relationship, but it is one of the most crucial factors needed if you really want to get your ex back.

Although you have to remember that when you do this, it doesn’t mean that you are going to wallow in self-pity and go on a downward spiral. Giving space does not necessarily mean giving up.

Having some time for yourself, catching up on an old hobby, pampering  yourself by going to a spa to have a facial or a full body massage, or just re-connecting with old friends can and WILL help you to think and see things more clearly.

Just be sure not to talk about your breakup too much with your friends. Their advice can just get you more confused. If you’ve been honest in answering the questions, above, then you probably already know what you must do to get your ex back.

A friend of mine once told me this story about her and her ex whom she was so in love with. Everything seemed like a fairy tale, or at least that’s what she tells me, then after some time of blissful existence, they had a falling apart.

She was totally shocked, for she had no idea what went wrong.  She was thinking, maybe it was that they weren’t compatible enough or maybe it was something as simple as he just eventually got tired of the usual things that they have been doing and that everything. Even sex became some sort of routine, as it usually does between many couples in a long term relationship.

When her ex told her that he wanted to break-up, of course, being that she was so in-love with him, her initial reaction was to ask him why he was doing this, and she begged and pleaded with him to take her back. This apparently was a very futile attempt. Being very persistent, she called him everyday, leaving many  messages each time.

She thought that if she tried to convince him to take her back, then eventually he would come to his senses and do so, but she was wrong. Not only did he not take her back, he even asked to have a restraining order issued against her, thinking that she was some sort of psycho who was now obsessed with him.

The lesson is, you can’t make someone change their point of view to match your own, especially if that someone doesn’t want to have anything to do with you. You can’t convince an ex to take you back by being insistent and annoying. Give them time to think and space to breathe, because they might need that in order to reflect and realize what they’re missing after breaking up with you.

Well, this post has gotten kinda long, so please check back often for the other 6 surefire techniques to win your ex back. I promise NOT to keep you waiting:)

To all those here in the U.S.,  have a very Happy And Safe 4th of July Holiday Weekend!

Blessings,

Jon

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