Win Back Ex Info

I came across this “truth” while going through my emails and I really liked reading it so I thought I’d share this simple fact and truth about life and how we can easily let ourselves get  stressed. For more insights such as this, you can go to Rex Barker’s, Joke-Of-The-Day

I also left a funny “Dumb Blonde”  joke at the end of this post….

“Just Today” -   by Dara F of Portland, Maine…

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry. Two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone!!

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow, with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance.

Tomorrow is beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow’s sun will rise, whether in splendor or behind a mask of clouds. But it will rise. Until it does we have no stake in tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day: Today.

Any man can fight the battles of just one day. It is when you and I add the burdens of two awful eternities - yesterday and tomorrow, that we break down.

It is not necessarily the experience of today that disturbs one’s peace of mind. It is often time the bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring. Let us therefore live one day at a time.

This is Rex Barker reminding you that while we should remember the past and plan and anticipate the future, it is critical that we don’t get paralyzed by either. By focusing on making the best of the present, we can actually make the past a sweeter learning experience, and make tomorrow’s hopes and dreams closer to reality.

Have a Wonderful Week And make it A Safe, Healthy, Stress-Free and Prosperous December!

Here’s a short “Blonde” joke for ya.’ Enjoy!

A depressed blonde decided to commit suicide by hanging herself from a tree in the park.

A few days later, a man was walking his dog and noticed her hanging from the tree. He asked her what she’s doing and she replied,”I’m hanging myself.”

You’re supposed to put the noose around your neck, not your waist,” said the man.

“I tried that,” replied the blonde,”but I couldn’t breathe…”

I Was lying in bed this morning, unable to sleep due to the severe winds and all the thoughts running through my mind.

I’m getting away from the winning back your ex info., for now, as I want to share a bit of my own personal life and situation. I no longer am concerned with winning anyone back, as I’ve discovered, through Emotional Freedom Techniques or  EFT for short, that there is only one person I must win back; and that is myself.

I had never understood exactly what was meant by sayings such as ” it is what it is” and “it’s all about you” and ” you can’t change anyone, you can only change yourself”…etc…etc.  these sayings made some sense, but I never really gave them much thought…… until now.

As I laid awake in bed, this morning, I began wondering what had happened to us, my wife and myself. I recalled how happy we were together for the first 2 years and my eyes began to swell up, as they are now as I share this.

Before I get into anything here, I want to tell you that my current wife is a wonderful and very unique lady.  She is well educated in her field, thoughtful, considerate, ultra-honest ( to a fault ) and asks me for nothing, other than to spend time with her. She is NOT a material girl or a “girly girl” as she wears no makeup ( one of the things that attracted me to her ), is unintentionally, naturally and unknowingly shyly-sexy.

Her faults are much fewer than mine  and  her biggest fault has been and continues to be living in the past ( holding onto negative memories) and not taking the required action to fix the things that she always  complains about. If you were to ask her why, she’d tell you because she’s not a confrontational person. She will pick and choose her battles carefully.

That being said, she has, recently, begun speaking up when people try to take advantage or disrespect her in some way. I think I’ve finally gotten through to her that we are in our 50’s and not little kids anymore.

For me, this meant  that not only can I NOT depend on my older brother   (as I did when in school ) or anyone else to come to my aid anymore. I’ve grown alot in these last 5 years or so and take this anyway you prefer to, but I don’t take anybody’s cr&p anymore.

Funny, but when I turned 50, I felt that I should be respected more. I’ve actually become more “brazen” now than I ever was before, but my fist and feet are slower now,  so I better not get too” brazen’-:).

See, I, too, was also fearful of confrontations for much of my life. I never ran away, but I did know when and where to fight if I had to.  I must admit that I was always afraid of getting punched in the nose! man, that hurts! LOL!

Okay, I got off subject for a moment or two. Now back to my ‘realizations”.

I then reflected back on my second marriage and realized the same pattern happening in my 3rd marriage as did happen in my 2nd marriage.

Only this time, things are much worse than in my second one, where my then wife would always be asking me if she looked to fat in this or if her butt looked to big in these pants…etc..etc.

I always liked the way she looked but she was never satisfied or she needed more assurance constantly. Well, eventually I got tired of telling her how good she looked and how much I liked the way she looked in certain articles of clothing. She  finally won my mind over to her way of thinking  of how she looked and I stopped with the assurances and compliments.
Eventually the romance,  affection,  I love you’s, and hugging & kissing,  stopped also. I guess I figured and thought that  since she didn’t think much of herself, and let me know it on a daily basis, I eventually felt and thought the same way about her. I began to see her through her eyes instead of my own.

I bring this up, because this is exactly whats  happening in my current  and third marriage  and it looks as if  we are heading towards  Splitsville, which hurts just thinking about it.

I have been hearing her tell me, for the last year or two, how horrible  she thinks she looks due to her weight loss from a fear of  choking which has lead to her having a very hard time swallowing any food or drink.

She always covers herself  up because she’s embarrassed of how thin she is. She  won’t even lie down with me because she don’t want me feeling her “boney’ shoulders, arms, waist…etc.  I’m at the point, now, where I just tune her out when she starts her self-hate story.
She has  such a bad self-image and she has told me so often, that she’s finally getting me to think  and see her the same way she sees herself.
I have now learned that just as much as confidence is sexy, ( which I had thought of being vain ) a low self-image is just as UNattractive.

Put yourself in your man’s  shoes for a minute.  If your woman had a bad self-image and was constantly saying how horrible she thought she looked, for whatever reason,  and you’re telling her multiple times, everyday, “honey you look fine, you just need to get some excersize or eat more  if you’re concerned about ( so & so ).

Now she keeps on going this route day after day WITHOUT DOING  ANYTHING to change her situation and you start thinking to yourself, ‘damn, what do I have to tell her or do for her to get her to stop talking about herself that way?”

Eventually and especially as you see she has done nothing for herself to better her situation, you  give in to her way of thinking towards herself
and start agreeing with her, silently ( very important-:) and the attraction begins to wear off until…..

The Next Time….

Hi all! I hope you are having a safe and blessed day.

This question that has stumped thousands:

“How do I get my ex back?”

But before we answer that, we must  know why the split-up happened in the first place.  As we all know, breakups can happen to anyone. It can happen slowly over time or in some cases, they can occur in a blink of an eye or a snap of a finger, and most likely, it leaves one party to wonder, what the hell just happened?

Source Of The Break-Up:

When seeking to repair a broken relationship, one must understand where it went wrong. You have to ask yourself  “why did my ex leave me?”   It’s  a very crucial factor to be totally  honest with yourself  with your answer.

Did you do something wrong?  Did you take them for granted?  Did you ignore their opinions regarding your relationship?  Maybe you just unknowingly ignored them at a time when they really needed you to be there and listen to them. The bottom line is that with every relationship, everyone wants to feel loved, wanted, respected and cared for.

Furthermore, there has to be a connection or chemistry between the people involved. Therefore,  you have to know what happened.  Why did  your ex lose their connection and commitment to you?

Most people, if not everybody, can probably answer these questions, but only those who are willing to take total responsibilities for their mistakes and take the necessary action to correct them can ever truly win their ex back.

The Aftermath:

After you get dumped, it is so easy to feel sorry for yourself.  And all your friends, family, and everybody you know will  feel sad for you, and would eventually urge you to take some time to cope with the situation.  Some of them would even give you all sorts of advice and stuff.

While it is very logical and understandable to take a step back, think, and assess the situation, at some point you have to gain your composure and be in the right frame of mind in order for you to be able to fix things.

Too many people try to do the  “feel sorry for me” act,  which, quite frankly, doesn’t really work in the long run. Yeah, there’s a slight chance that your ex would take you back, but only out of pity. Nobody ever really wants to be with somebody whom they feel sorry for - somebody who is weak and emotionally unstable.

In any relationship, both parties must put in effort. It’s “give and take” and if one of you is a dead-weight and unwilling to do their “part”, then most likely the other one will eventually get sick and tired of carrying the entire load.

Be In Charge Of Your Own Destiny:

Once you get enough courage and confidence to confront your ex, it is time to prepare your strategy.  By this time, you probably know what went wrong. So now you have to make things different and make them realize that things are going to be completely different than they were before.

As it is said, actions speak louder than words, but begging and stalking will never really help you win them back.  Not to mention, stalking may just help you in spending a few nights in  a cell with “Bubba” or “Lola”. This is something I’d imagine is NOT in your plans.

So instead, you have to do something creative;  something that will grab their attention, and make a lasting impression. ‘Cause believe me, opportunities are rare, and not everybody gets a second chance.

Hell, sometimes it’s hard enough to the first chance!

So if and when you do, you really have to make the most out of it.
So then, we come back to the question, “How do I get my ex back?”

The thing is, some people just mope around and do nothing to improve their situation while there are others who are persistent enough to find the answer.

But, Here’s the good news….

Every relationship can be saved with the right combination of persistence, creativity, and knowing what to do. With that being said, I’ll share with you today, 1  surefire technique to get your ex back and 6 more techniques over the coming days.

SUREFIRE TECHNIQUE #1: Minimize Contact

One probable cause of the break-up is that one of you most likely has had enough. So, begging and clinging would undoubtedly just annoy them. This is extremely important because if you pester your ex too much, you will make them want to avoid you even more. As people say, “let the dust settle”.

Spending time away from each other can actually help mend the broken connection. Agreeing to have some time for reflection and thought is the best way to assess your relationship. This also gives your ex some time to clear their mind.

It could be that some time away will remind them of how important your bond was. Closing the doors of communication may look as if you are doing the opposite to rejuvenating a failed relationship, but it is one of the most crucial factors needed if you really want to get your ex back.

Although you have to remember that when you do this, it doesn’t mean that you are going to wallow in self-pity and go on a downward spiral. Giving space does not necessarily mean giving up.

Having some time for yourself, catching up on an old hobby, pampering  yourself by going to a spa to have a facial or a full body massage, or just re-connecting with old friends can and WILL help you to think and see things more clearly.

Just be sure not to talk about your breakup too much with your friends. Their advice can just get you more confused. If you’ve been honest in answering the questions, above, then you probably already know what you must do to get your ex back.

A friend of mine once told me this story about her and her ex whom she was so in love with. Everything seemed like a fairy tale, or at least that’s what she tells me, then after some time of blissful existence, they had a falling apart.

She was totally shocked, for she had no idea what went wrong.  She was thinking, maybe it was that they weren’t compatible enough or maybe it was something as simple as he just eventually got tired of the usual things that they have been doing and that everything. Even sex became some sort of routine, as it usually does between many couples in a long term relationship.

When her ex told her that he wanted to break-up, of course, being that she was so in-love with him, her initial reaction was to ask him why he was doing this, and she begged and pleaded with him to take her back. This apparently was a very futile attempt. Being very persistent, she called him everyday, leaving many  messages each time.

She thought that if she tried to convince him to take her back, then eventually he would come to his senses and do so, but she was wrong. Not only did he not take her back, he even asked to have a restraining order issued against her, thinking that she was some sort of psycho who was now obsessed with him.

The lesson is, you can’t make someone change their point of view to match your own, especially if that someone doesn’t want to have anything to do with you. You can’t convince an ex to take you back by being insistent and annoying. Give them time to think and space to breathe, because they might need that in order to reflect and realize what they’re missing after breaking up with you.

Well, this post has gotten kinda long, so please check back often for the other 6 surefire techniques to win your ex back. I promise NOT to keep you waiting:)

To all those here in the U.S.,  have a very Happy And Safe 4th of July Holiday Weekend!

Blessings,

Jon

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First, take a step back and put some space between the two of you. Reflect on the relationship you had with him so that you can make sure getting back together is what you want. Some women just want to get back with him because they feel hurt. You will need to determine if getting back with him is what is best for your life.
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- The most important thing to remember is not to be desperate. Even though you will feel desperate at times, you need to put off calling or emailing her for a while after the breakup. Both you and your ex girlfriend will need some time to heal before things can be talked about in a civil manner.
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